Do a Real Daily Check-In

Daily check-ins keep you connected. They prevent small issues from becoming big problems. They show you care about her day and what's going on with her.

Don't make it random. Make it a regular thing. Same time every day. Same place. It becomes something you both look forward to.

1. Pick a Time

Choose a time that works for both of you: morning coffee, after work, before bed, or during dinner. Make it consistent. Same time, every day.

2. Put Everything Away

No phones. No TV. No distractions. Just the two of you, talking.

3. Ask Better Questions

Move beyond "how was your day?" Ask:

- "What was the best part of your day?"

- "What was the hardest part?"

- "What are you looking forward to?"

- "What's on your mind?"

4. Actually Listen

Don't just wait for your turn to talk. Listen. Ask follow-up questions. Show you're interested.

5. Share Your Day Too

It's not just about her. Share your day. What went well? What was hard? What are you thinking about?

6. Check In About Your Relationship

Every few days, check in about how things are going between you:

- "How are we doing?"

- "Is there anything you need from me?"

- "What's working well for us right now?"

Making it transactional: "Did you do X? Did you remember Y?"

Not listening: Asking questions but not paying attention to answers

Making it about you: Turning it into a chance to talk about your problems

Skipping it: "We're too busy" is how you drift apart

You checked in. You stayed connected. You know what's going on with each other. That's a win.