Have a 20-Minute Undistracted Conversation

A 20-minute undistracted conversation creates space for meaningful connection. When phones are away and distractions are gone, you can actually talk and listen in ways that don't happen when you're both distracted.

This isn't about having a conversation while checking your phone. It's about putting everything away and actually being present together.

1. Put Everything Away

Phones, devices, distractions—put them all away. Out of sight, out of reach. Actually disconnect.

2. Pick a Time

Choose when you'll do it:

- When you're both available

- When you can be present

- When you won't be rushed

- When you can focus

3. Pick a Place

Choose somewhere:

- Quiet and comfortable

- You can talk without distractions

- You both feel relaxed

- You can focus on each other

4. Actually Talk

Discuss:

- How you're both doing

- What's going on in your lives

- Your relationship

- Dreams, concerns, anything that matters

5. Actually Listen

Be present. Listen. Don't just wait for your turn to talk. Actually hear what she's saying.

Everything is away: No devices, no distractions.

You're present: Actually there, not thinking about other things.

You actually talk: About what matters, not just surface stuff.

You actually listen: Hear what she's saying, don't just wait to respond.

Keeping phones nearby: Put them away, out of reach.

Being distracted: Actually be there, not thinking about other things.

Not making time: Make it a priority, don't skip it.

Not actually listening: Hear what she's saying, don't just wait to talk.

You had a 20-minute undistracted conversation. You created space for meaningful connection. You actually talked and listened. You connected deeply. That's a win.