Notice What Needs Doing (And Do It)

Stop waiting to be told. Look around. See what needs doing. Do it. This is what being a partner actually looks like.

Why This Matters

If you're waiting to be told what to do, you're not being a partner. You're being managed. A partner sees what needs doing and does it. They don't wait for instructions. They don't need to be asked.

The Secret: Look Around

Stop and look. What needs doing? What's not done? What would make her life easier? Do that.

What to Notice

1. The Obvious Stuff

Dishes in the sink, trash that needs to go out, laundry that needs to be done, things that are out of place.

2. The Stuff That's Her Job

If there's something that's "her job," do it anyway. Don't wait for her to ask. Just do it.

3. The Stuff That Would Help

What would make her life easier? What would take something off her plate? Do that.

How to Actually Do It

1. Look Around

Take 30 seconds. Look around. What needs doing?

2. Do It

Don't ask. Don't announce it. Just do it.

3. Make It a Habit

Do this regularly. Not just once. Make it how you operate.

Common Mistakes

Waiting to be told: Don't wait. Just do it.

Asking what to do: Look around. Figure it out.

Doing it for credit: Don't announce it. Just do it.

Only doing obvious stuff: Think about what would actually help.

The Win

You noticed what needed doing and did it. She didn't have to ask. You were a partner, not someone to be managed. That's a win.