Plan a Future Visit Together

When you're apart, visits are everything. But planning them can be stressful. Taking initiative shows you're committed to making time together happen. It removes the burden from her. It demonstrates you're actively working to close the distance, not just waiting for it to happen.

Don't wait for her to plan it. Don't make her do all the work. Take the lead. Research options. Present ideas. Show you're thinking ahead and prioritizing time together.

1. Research Dates

Look at both your calendars. Find dates that work. Consider:

- Work schedules

- Important events

- Travel time

- Budget

- What makes sense for both of you

2. Research Travel Options

Look at flights, trains, buses, or driving options. Compare:

- Prices

- Times

- Convenience

- What works best for both of you

3. Present Options

Don't just say "when do you want to visit?" Present 2-3 specific options:

- "I found flights for these dates..."

- "Here are a few options that work..."

- "What do you think about these dates?"

Make it easy for her to choose, not hard for her to plan.

4. Consider Logistics

Think about:

- Where you'll stay

- What you'll do

- How you'll get around

- What you'll need

Don't make her figure it all out.

5. Make It Special

Plan something special for the visit:

- A date night

- An activity you both want to do

- Something that makes it feel like more than just "visiting"

6. Confirm and Book

Once you agree, book it. Don't wait. Make it real. Put it on both calendars. Make it something you're both looking forward to.

**Start early:** Don't wait until the last minute. Plan ahead.

**Be flexible:** Have backup options. Be willing to adjust.

**Consider her schedule:** Make sure it works for her, not just you.

**Think about budget:** Be realistic about what you can afford.

**Make it a priority:** Show that visits are important to you.

**Plan activities:** Don't just show up. Have things to do together.

**Making her do all the work:** Don't just say "when do you want to visit?" Do the research.

**Not considering her schedule:** Make sure it works for her, not just you.

**Being vague:** "Sometime in the spring" isn't planning. Be specific.

**Not following through:** If you say you'll plan it, actually plan it.

**Not making it special:** Visits should feel special, not just convenient.

**Not confirming:** Once you agree, book it. Don't leave it hanging.

**Plan something unique:** Don't just do the same things. Plan something special.

**Count down together:** Share the excitement. Count down the days.

**Talk about it:** Build anticipation. Talk about what you'll do.

**Make it a priority:** Show that visits are important to you.

**Be excited:** Show you're looking forward to it. Make her feel wanted.

You planned a future visit. You took initiative. You did the research. You made it easy for her. You showed you're committed to making time together happen. She felt prioritized. You both have something to look forward to. That's a win.