Plan Things Together (As a Team)

Learn how to plan vacations, projects, or decisions together in a way that feels collaborative, not like you're managing or being managed.

Why This Matters

Planning together as a team creates collaboration and shared ownership. When you plan together, you both feel heard and invested in the outcome.

The Secret: It's Collaboration, Not Management

This isn't about one person planning and the other following. It's about planning together, as partners.

How to Plan Together

1. Start Together

Begin planning together:

- "Let's plan [thing] together"

- "What do you think about [idea]?"

- "How should we approach this?"

2. Listen to Each Other

Actually hear:

- What does she want?

- What are her ideas?

- What are her concerns?

- What matters to her?

3. Make Decisions Together

Decide together:

- "What do you think?"

- "How do you feel about [option]?"

- "What works for you?"

- "Let's decide together"

4. Share the Work

Divide planning tasks:

- You handle [specific thing]

- She handles [specific thing]

- You both work on [specific thing]

5. Check In Regularly

As you plan:

- "How's the planning going?"

- "What do you need help with?"

- "Are we on track?"

- "What do you think?"

What Makes It Work

You start together: You begin planning as a team.

You listen to each other: You hear what matters to each of you.

You decide together: You make decisions as partners.

You share the work: You both contribute to planning.

You check in regularly: You stay connected throughout the process.

Common Mistakes

One person doing all the planning: Plan together, as a team.

Not listening: Actually hear what matters to each of you.

Making decisions alone: Decide together, as partners.

Not sharing the work: Both of you contribute.

Not checking in: Stay connected throughout the process.

The Win

You planned together as a team. You both felt heard. You made decisions together. You shared the work. You created collaboration and shared ownership. That's a win.