Plan a Virtual Date That Actually Feels Special

When you're apart, it's easy to let connection slip. Text messages and quick calls aren't enough. Virtual dates create intentional time together. They show you're prioritizing your relationship despite the distance. They create shared experiences and memories, even when you can't be in the same room.

A virtual date isn't just a video call. It's planned time together with a purpose. You're not just catching up—you're creating an experience. That intention is what makes it feel special, not just convenient.

1. Choose the Activity

Pick something you can do together over video. Good options:

- Cook the same meal together

- Watch a movie simultaneously

- Play an online game

- Have a themed conversation (questions, topics, etc.)

- Do a virtual tour of a museum or city

- Read to each other

- Work on a project together (planning, creating, etc.)

2. Set a Specific Time

Don't just say "let's talk later." Pick a day and time. Put it on both your calendars. Treat it like a real date—something you commit to and look forward to.

3. Prepare Ahead

If you're cooking, both get the ingredients. If you're watching a movie, both have it ready. If you're playing a game, both download it. The preparation shows you're taking it seriously.

4. Set the Mood

Dress up a bit if you want. Light a candle. Put your phone away. Create an environment that feels special, not just another video call. Make it feel like a date, not a meeting.

5. Be Present

When you're on the date, actually be there. Don't multitask. Don't check your phone. Make eye contact. Engage. This is quality time, not background noise.

6. Have a Plan, But Be Flexible

Have an activity planned, but be open to conversation. Sometimes the best virtual dates are the ones where you start with a plan but end up just talking. The structure helps, but don't let it get in the way of connection.

Cooking Together:

- Choose a recipe you both want to try

- Get the ingredients ahead of time

- Cook it together over video

- Eat together virtually

- Share the experience and laugh at mistakes

Movie Night:

- Pick a movie you both want to watch

- Sync up the start time (countdown: 3, 2, 1, play)

- Watch together over video call

- Share reactions, pause to discuss

- Make it feel like you're in the same room

Game Night:

- Play an online board game (Tabletopia, Board Game Arena)

- Play a multiplayer video game

- Play something simple like Words With Friends

- Make it competitive or collaborative

- Have fun together

Virtual Tour:

- Take a virtual tour of a museum together

- Explore a city via Google Street View

- Visit a place you both want to go

- Share what you're seeing and discuss it

- Plan a future visit

Themed Conversation:

- Pick a topic or set of questions

- Have a deep conversation about something meaningful

- Share stories, memories, or dreams

- Create connection through conversation

- Make it feel like a real date conversation

Read Together:

- Read a book together (same book, different chapters)

- Read to each other

- Share favorite passages

- Discuss what you're reading

- Create a shared experience through stories

**Making it last-minute:** "Want to video call?" isn't a date. Plan it ahead.

**Not preparing:** If you're cooking, get ingredients. If you're watching, have the movie ready. Preparation shows effort.

**Multitasking:** Don't check your phone or work during the date. Be present.

**Making it generic:** "Let's just talk" is fine sometimes, but make some dates special with an activity.

**Not committing:** If you schedule it, show up. Don't cancel unless it's really necessary.

**Forgetting the purpose:** It's about connection, not just doing something. Make sure you're actually connecting.

**Dress up:** Even if you're just at home, dressing up a bit makes it feel special.

**Set the scene:** Light a candle, put on music, create an environment that feels like a date.

**Have something to look forward to:** Plan something fun or meaningful, not just another call.

**Be romantic:** Tell her she looks nice. Compliment her. Make it feel like a real date.

**End with intention:** Don't just hang up. Tell her you loved spending time with her. Plan the next one.

You planned a virtual date. You created intentional time together. You had a shared experience despite the distance. She felt special and prioritized. You both felt closer and more connected. That's a win.