Practice Words of Affirmation

For some people, words have power. When words of affirmation are her love language, what you say (or don't say) matters deeply. Your words can build her up or tear her down.

Generic words don't land. Specific, genuine words of affirmation show you're paying attention and you actually see her.

1. Be Specific

Generic: "You're great."

Specific: "I love how you handle stress. You stay calm and figure things out. I admire that about you."

2. Notice Character

Don't just compliment appearance. Notice how she handles things, how she treats people, how she shows up. "I love how you always make people feel welcome." "You have such a good heart."

3. Be Genuine

Don't say things you don't mean. If you don't mean it, she'll know. Pay attention. Notice things. When you genuinely appreciate something, say it.

4. Say It Regularly

Don't only say it when you want something. Say it because you notice. Make it a habit, not a special occasion.

Being generic: "You're great" doesn't land like something specific.

Only complimenting appearance: Notice her character, effort, and actions too.

Not meaning it: If you don't mean it, don't say it.

Only saying it when you want something: Make it a habit, not transactional.

You used words to make her feel loved. She felt seen and appreciated. Your words built her up. That's a win.