Have Meaningful Video Calls When You're Apart

When you're apart, video calls are your lifeline. But not all video calls are created equal. Some feel like connection. Others feel like obligation. Learn how to make your calls meaningful and maintain emotional intimacy even when you're miles apart.

A video call isn't just about seeing each other. It's about being together. That means being fully present—not multitasking, not distracted, not just going through the motions.

1. Schedule It

Don't just call randomly. Schedule it. Put it on both your calendars. Treat it like an appointment you're both committed to. This shows you're prioritizing time together.

2. Have No Agenda

Sometimes the best calls are the ones with no agenda. Just talk. Ask about her day. Share yours. Be present and see where the conversation goes. Don't force it.

3. Put Away Distractions

Close your laptop. Put your phone away. Turn off notifications. Give her your full attention. She can tell when you're distracted, and it makes her feel unimportant.

4. Make Eye Contact

Look at the camera, not the screen. It feels more like you're looking at each other. Make it feel like a real conversation, not a video conference.

5. Ask Real Questions

Move beyond "how was your day?" Ask:

- "What made you smile today?"

- "What was challenging?"

- "What are you looking forward to?"

- "What's on your mind?"

6. Share Your World

Tell her about your day. Show her things around you. Let her into your world. Make her feel included in your life, even when you're apart.

7. End With Intention

Don't just hang up. Tell her you loved talking to her. Tell her you miss her. Plan the next call. Make it feel like a real goodbye, not just ending a call.

**Multitasking:** Don't check your phone or work during the call. Be present.

**Making it transactional:** "Did you do X? Did you call Y?" This isn't a status update. It's connection time.

**Not scheduling:** Random calls are fine sometimes, but scheduled calls show you're prioritizing her.

**Being distracted:** She can tell when you're not really there. Put everything away.

**Rushing:** Don't make it feel like you're trying to get off the call. Take your time.

**Not asking questions:** Don't just talk about yourself. Ask about her. Show interest.

**Dress up a bit:** Even if you're just at home, looking nice makes it feel special.

**Set the scene:** Find a good spot with good lighting. Make it look nice.

**Have something to share:** Think about what you want to tell her. Have stories or updates ready.

**Be romantic:** Tell her she looks nice. Compliment her. Make it feel like a real conversation.

**End with love:** Don't just hang up. Tell her you love her. Tell her you miss her.

You had a meaningful video call. You were present. You connected. She felt heard and valued. You both felt closer despite the distance. That's a win.